In our first part of this series we talked about clarity and understanding WHAT WE REALLY WANT. The first step of this is learning the four primary desires of our life and how to achieve them. One of four desires is Aliveness which we learned about in the previous blog post. Today we will learn about the second one, DEEP CONNECTION.

Dissatisfaction in life usually has nothing to do with you but with the quality of your relationships. Better relationships and deeper connections with yourself, others, and the universe or God equate to a happier life. Focus on the routines that will improve your relationships, instead of the tasks.

ROUTINES mean STOP LEAVING IT TO CHANCE. 

Too much in this world is left to chance, but you can make radical shifts when you create the architecture to support your ultimate desire.

That is the secret to the centurions, blue zone and to that ageless way of vibrancy in life. So deepen connection- not only with other people but with yourself too. 

DEEP CONNECTION LIGHTS UP ALIVENESS.

Think of the closest people in your life and ask yourself:

• How can I deepen my relationship with this person?
• What would that look like? What can I do with him/her?
• What are the goals of the people who are closest to you in their life?
• How can you support that? How can you encourage that? How can you help them?
• How can you deepen that network or relationship for them or with them?

If you are in a relationship with someone, it is important to be present with them. Be responsible for the energy (aliveness, passion, presence) you are bringing into your relationships. It shifts the relationships. How can you deepen the relationship with your spouse? It takes daily work. Brendon says:

“I set an intention before going into my house, how I will treat my wife, how I will be. It is a mindset and habit trigger that before I enter that doorway, I set an intention for how I want to be with her. “

So simple, but daily. You have to make self improvement a way of life including with the people you love, live together.

Journaling Questions:

-What are three things you could do to deepen your relationships in the major areas of your life?

-What are your routines to deepen those relationships? Do not write tasks, write routines to make better relationships. 

I will see you in our next post where we will learn about third desire, MEANINGFUL PURSUIT. Are you doing your homework, answering the journaling questions? Is this helping you to get to know yourself, figure out what you want of your life, and rediscover yourself? Loved to hear from you in comments.